1Malaysia by Yuni

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1Malaysia, Benteng Negara,
Rakyat Malaysia taat setia....

Kalau ada pertandingan 1Malaysia bawah 3 tahun, pasti Yuni juara. Hahahaha.

Lagu 1Malaysia dah nyanyi.
Bendera Malaysia dah kenal.
Bendera Selangor, Perlis, Kedah dan Sabah(cukup minat betul dgn Sabah, padahal xpernah pergi).
Lagu Merdeka dh boleh nyanyi.

Tinggal nak sebut nama Najib dgn Rosmah je. Kah kah kah.

P/S: Nenek Yuni tgh training dia hafal bendera2 seluruh dunia. Setakat ini; Malaysia, Japan, Saudi Arabia, Lebanon(sbb Malaysia lawan Lebanon ari tuh), Ireland, Korea, Canada, Australia, America.

Wedding seasons and reality in Malaysia

Be aware, be aware, the wedding season is coming soon to Malaysia. Haha.

 

Malaysian's wedding compared to Japanese wedding is totally more merrier as the more people attend to witness the happiest day of the couple's life. Malay weddings are bigger in scale, actually in any scale-Budget, Venue, VIPs. It's more of a culture than a ceremony.

 

Malays are mostly muslims here in Malaysia. Therefore, the ceremony is likewise to consist of compulsary Aqad(something like Sales & Purchase agreement) and of course the lunch/dinner, originally as a sedeqah(alms) to the guests who had take effort to attend and celebrate the married couple. That is the compulsary ceremony. The main reason to a wedding ceremony is to of course, celebrate the couple who are accomplishing one of the BIG task and to prevent the spread of rumours of the two couples when they are spotted in a "married couple" manner elsewhere.(alaaaa.. macam pegang2 tangan gitu-> holding hands between a man and a woman who are their ajnabi is a SIN. Please do not ask why people are still sinning even though it is clearly a sin. Kawin sajalah!)

 

Anyways, "so-called" traditional and culture weddings consists of the below;

1. Merisik (Seeking the availability of a girl of the house)

-> Of course, usually the male side will have an informal meet (maybe the groom and the future FIL) to confirm the sincerity and to confirm his sanity of making sure he knows what his getting into===> Marriage!

2. Bertunang (Engagement)

-> The normal engagement comes with an engagement ring. This is mostly not Islamic, because there is no such rule to BOOKING a bride :P. More of a Western Culture, mainly for the following reasons;

- Both families have time to get to know each other better instead of from the sons/daughter's story. Reality check! Both families have the right to know what they ae gtting into, of course.

- To buy some time for the groom to get arrangements in terms of MONEY. Haha. Well, not everyone is a Rich Man's Son, right?

3. Nikah(Aqad)

As per stated ealier, this is a Sales&Purchase ceremony between the Father of the Bride to the Groom. When the father of the bride is unavailable of any such reasons, the next male family in line isresponsible to take the Father's position. Mainly; Brother/Uncles/2nd Uncles/Judge.

- Please be aware, if the Bride is an illegitimate child(anak luar nikah), the Father has NO RIGHT to marry of his daugther. Because he is not the lawful father of the child. In this case, the Father's position is directly exchanged to a JUDGE.

- Please also be aware that if the Sales & Purchase (Akad) ceremony is not complete, the bride and groom MUST re-Akad before they could do an intercourse or even bear a child! If they do not re-Akad correctly, the are sinned to Adaultry and the decendants are not to be family-named to the father. If the S&P ceremony is not complete in a valid manner, (correct Wali, enough and correct Witness, a valid tok Kadi etc.) the decendants correct status will not be cleared and will continuously evolve to a non-valid relationship. Nau'zubillah!

4. Reception (I will skip the merewang, marhaban etc. because they are optional just to make the ceremony merrier)

Lunch/Dinner depending on the schedule of the reception. Pergghh.. Malays are so damn competitive when it comes to reception ceremony. Of, course the married couples are considered "Raja Sehari", they are accomplanied with the "kompang", cute escort children, to their Bridal Seat where theVIPs, elders, relatives throw a few drops of rosewater to their hands(when sometimes  I do see them throwing at the couple's attire) as a kind of blessing. This culture more originated from the Hindu's and the Jawa culture. Hey, we are 1Malysia ALL the time, eversince a LONG time ago :P

Eventhough the reception is also a type of alm to the guests and celebration to the couples, may I remind that if you start to eat before the Raja Sehari, you are claimed to be a Rebellious Servant. Haha! No, we will never throw you out of the reception. Hehe.

The "Grand"ness of the wedding also differs by their financial status. For example, a-little-under-waiged-family would have to cook for their own guests, seek help from their neighbours to save budget. The atmosphere would appear to be merrier despite the hot/rainy weather in Malaysia. So, the set of mind is important when you attend their weddings. Get ready to dirt some shoes!

A-little-above-waiged-family may be able to tender a caterer so that they do not have to cook for themselves. Sometimes, they might be doing the reception in their own yard instead in a town hall in the community. This also varies by the price of per head count of the catering which can range from RM5.50~RM20.00/head???

An-Over-Waiged-Family may be able to get the receptions in big famous Halls right smack in the City. They are probably able to rent the halls, pay for the expensive props and high quality-tv like photographers and video makers. Haha.

No, I am not prejudice(betul ke?). I am no Sa-Betsu. Just that upon my observations all the years, the grandness/royalty-like of the reception can be concluded to the above :)

 

It doesn't matter which level of Finance and the way the reception would be like, it is important to not burden yourself in the making. It is so not worth to take up personal loans or pinjam dengan Ah-Long just to make "superb" wedding. It's the thought that counts :)

 

Why am I doing this post? Because I am partially in-charge of my sister in law wedding this Sunday. May all ends well, Amin!

Mizz Nina dan Noh Hujan... 頑張ってください！応援しています。

Hari ini saya tertarik dengan kisah(gossip?) yang dikeutarakan oleh beautifulnara.com .Ia berkisahkan tentang satu majalah yang menyiarkan gambar Noh Hujan dan Mizz Nina.

I heard about the topic from my Aunt last saturday when we were on our way to Seremban to visit Granny and MakcikAbg (we called her this because she used to dress and cut her hair like a boy when she was younger). Yes, my MakNgah is a very updated person. She knows almost all the good news regardless of politics, local, international, islamic and entertainment. I think she has time to read a lot now after PENCEN (oh, wait... need to minus the time she takes care of her grandchildren)

Anyway, I heard from MakNgah that Mizz Nina is the daughter of one of the 10 richest man in Malaysia(Wow!) I guess fans do know better than me... So I am totally not going to explain her profile/biography here. That is not the main point.

The main point is that media(to get issues controversial) seems to like to put up headlines like "Noh patut cermin diri sebelum pikat Mizz Nina" WTH? It is so obvious that they are pointing to the inside of his wallet. You think Noh tuh miskin merempat ke? Not that I am backing him up. I am trying to keep cool here. I don't even know his family/finance status. But I know that "Human does not have the right to condem others by comparing their wallets or bank accounts. Rezeki is based on usaha, doa and tawakkal. Long happy marriage is based on "ikhlas".

My Abg, he was not a Dato' child. He was a normal, well, probably slightly under the standard privilege line. I understood his feelings when we were friend. I also understood his feelings when he went for interview with my parents(gulp!). I understand how small he must have felt stepping his foot in our house. Just because he was comparing his bank account to mine and my parents. I think everyone of us will have that kind of feeling (at least a tiny bit) when we step on to their shoes. But, I am not saying that it's BAD to be humble... Just not good to be too humble till the point you lose your self-esteem.

I kept on saying and encouraging him that he has too much to offer to us despite MONEY and MONEY is not everything in LOVE and LIFE (of courselah we need money to live). With effort, determination- usaha, doa, tawakkal- Insyaallah, rezeki will be rolling your way. Means that, Noh... Just because they think that you cannot stand shoulders to shoulders (might I say bank accounts to bank accounts... haha!), it doesn't mean that you cannot strive for it. It does not mean that there is no other way to survive... It's all up to you!

The main reason for me to write this is basically because I could understand the basic situation.

And I hope that for those Gagak and Merpati lovers... Stand up to what you believe, Usaha Doa and Tawakkal for the best in life. Put aside negative comments, headlines, sarcastic assumptions etc. and proceed to strive for your dreams. Insyaallah, the effort will pay off.

Picture credits to: Kotak Hitam and Entertainment Malaysia

Update geram to certain Docs in Malaysia

Hi Everyone,

My latest update for the past 2 weeks maybe?

30th Oct 2010 (Sat)
Had to do OT due to my L-O-U-D mouth main2 ckp dgn Manager that I am able to do OT dengan syarat Yuni boleh dibawa ke Ofis. Tuh diaaa... I was stuck at office doing nothing but playing with Yuni while surfing the internet. A 6.5 hours of BOREDOM. *sigh* But because of double pay on Saturday, I got a total of 13hours pay that day. Alhamdulillah.

Started the OT at 7 am and it ended at 1.30 pm. Yes, Yuni was at her limits. Mom and Dad picked us up at Cyberjaya and it didn't take us any longer that reaching the PLUS tol on the way back when Yuni dozed of to Happly-land.

Since hubby is in Beruas sending my MIL back to hometown, mummy and Yuni spent the whole 2 days together. Unfortunately, that night about 2:30 am (Sun) ... I F-E-L-L down hitting the back of my head on the batu marmar floor when I was about to get on the first step of the 3-step stairs.

No, it was not me being groggy. It was my leg F-A-I-L-ing on me. I had this problem eversince Yuni was 1 year young :B And I admit that I was 1/2 responsible for delaying the leg check up process. Malas. Mendoukusai. So, Allah gave me a warning by making my leg fail and me falling down like how Cartoons fall slipping on the banana skin. No offence for some of you guys reading this, but I am SERIOUSLY not making this up. Am not exaggerating at all. I am just EXPLAINING.

31st Oct 2010 (Sun)
Me having this scary thought of concussion, googled "concussion" to find out the symptoms. And, wahla.. I don't have concussion. So I kept on doing my normal routine of the day until I felt my head berdenyut2 at the end of the day.

1st Nov 2010 (Mon)
Took MC that day and went to Medivron Clinic. Explained everything to the Doc and she said "Jangan pandai2 nak jadi Doctor sendiri" She wrote me a letter and asked me to go to UH. I even asked the Doc, "Can I go for URUT first, before going to UH?" No way! You're going to UH first.

I am supposed to check my spine since it was the root cause of the fall. The Doc said nothing special regarding my head injury. Oh, that means, I am good at being a Doctor then... hahaha But, she did inform me that if this problem is related to your spine, then you may face difficulty in your second pregnancy. -> Ok, takut.

Went to UH. At the Kaunter Saringan, the Nurse sent me to Kecemasan And Trauma. OMG! Memang tunggu lama. But, after I read the below information. Legalah sikit. Means, my case is somewhere between G2 and G3.


After a while, Doc called me and checked my spine. It was a foreign doctor. Spoke bits to bits of English and keep on telling me that there is nothing wrong with me. He was also frustrated.. I guess with the Nurse at Kaunter Saringan for sending me here (Kecemasan & Trauma). Hey, I was shocked myself. Kecemasan and Trauma is the last place I wanted to go that day cause I don't feel as though my case is related to Kecemasan & Trauma. Ok, aku dah maafkan nurse yang dekat Kaunter Saringan tuh.

But, because of that, this foregin Doc yang mungkin belum lunch lagi... Gave me a bad service and a bad impression of all PPUM docs. And above all that, he prescribed me with PONSTAN and Hot cream WTH! Sangat mengambil sambil lewa!

Mom who was there next to me all the time said to me to IGNORE the prescription and we went back home. Mom adviced me though to get a second opinion at SJMC. So called SJMC to set up a quick reservation with Otopedik who has Afternoon clinics.

So, there I was with Doctor Muthu. Explaining the problem from A-Z. I also informed Doc about how my problem may be related to pre-pregnancy problem which was my SIL's nurse side of the opinion. Oh, Doctor Muthu lagi siyott... Taulah nak dekat Deepavali... He could just say that I was fine and even make a joke out of my SIL;

"Your SIL grad kolej nursing mana yer? I nak hire dia kerja dekat sinilah" -> as I am quite serious at that time, I answered all his Questions honestly. Plus he asked me to go for X-ray which in the end found me nothing. Being an open person, I CANNOT and REFUSE to accept his reason for my problem to be;

"It's all in your mind. Jangan dengar sangat apa orang lain cakap" Oh, WTF! It's all in my mind? Go to hell! Ingat aku saja2 je ke buat alasan nak jumpa Doc. I only felt the rage in myself when I saw the Consultancy Bill for RM135!! I took my effort to see you, waste my time and bare all your stupid consultancy and still have to pay the fu*king RM135. Melampau siyott..

Aku pon bodoh jugak lah.. Balik rumah, I vodoo-ed myself saying that I have no such leg-failure problem. Not long after that? STILL ADA PROBLEM.

Geram. Geram. Geram. Geram.

Memang dah sampai my patience LIMIT this time. Aku sebenarnya tak paham the rational of these kind of treatment to patients. If Docs have too much WORK, BURDEN... then, it's the Hospital side that needs to do something about it. In my case, it seems like those 2 Docs are such a PITA. So what if you guys tak makan, tak cukup tidor, EGO etc., it definitely not the reason to throw the tantrum at patients. It is not also the reason to treat patients as FOOLS.

Memang lepasan geram yang damn I don't even like to re-read this entry. But, since some are asking about the hujung pangkal of the story, so I terangkan panjang lebar.

Give me a million REASON for the treatment I had, I will not tolerate such nonsence especially in Customer Service.

Ijou.

Yuni Updates and Note/Voice? Message

Hari ni cerita pasal Yuni.. hehehe

1. Yuni suka tengok cerita The WotWots every morning about 8am on TVIQ, Astro sambil minum susu :)

 Comel kan? Aku selalu sampai on-time jer kat kerja pasal tengok cartoon nih..

2. Yuni dah pandai menari bila cartoon menari2

(ex. Head-Shoulders-Knees-Toes song)

3. Yuni mengenali bendera Malaysia... Oh, 1Malaysia! hehehe

Kitorang ada World Map kat rumah... beneath the World map tuh adalah Country Flags yang berlambak2... Dalam banyak2 tuh, bleh Yuni carik, and point at Malaysia flag! hehe

Of course at first, Yuni macam ragu2 between bendera America... hehehe

 Of course, the proud Mommy and Granny clapped their hands evertime Yuni shows the Malaysia flag :)

 4. Yuni bersemangat bangun sahur dah 2 pagi dah nih... heheh

Rasanya that's about it. Memang rasanya tiap2 hari ada saja ceita si Anak kecil ini.. hehehe... Bila dah jadi mommy nih... Inilah akibatnya :)

Btw, To: Ayin, regarding Kasih merengek ari tuh...

Balik, siap re-consult dengan my mom... And dia tanya is Kasih full bf? And I say should be lah... abru 4 months, right? And then  my mom said, check back what the mother ate... Mungkin ada sesuatu yang you makan dan xkena dengan baby. Kerana itulah, ibu2 yang menyusu anak sepenuh masa, perlu berhati2 dalam pemakanan... because everything you eat, reflects to the milk :)

Itu saja, babai!